Be humble. Have hustle.

Today all of the gang at Hollywood BJJ got together to watch UFC 80. UFC parties are something of a tradition at Hollywood BJJ. It’s great fun. We all chow on pizza and people bring their friends and significant others. It’s a rare opportunity to hang with your teammates in a social setting.

Anyway, I was pretty stoked for the BJ Penn/Joe Stevenson match and as I expected, it was incredibly exciting. As I have mentioned before in this blog, I’m a big BJ Penn fan and he’s one of the main reasons I follow MMA. For a long time though I was just a couch-potato fan. I followed the BJJ and MMA scenes but I never got onto the mat myself.

That all changed about seven months ago when I had a personal epiphany. Oddly enough, the epiphany occurred at my day-job as a software engineer. My career had stalled and I was feeling overwhelmed and dissatisfied. After many months of misery I realized that the source of my problems was my own lack of humility. I was so confident in my abilities as a software engineer that I was blind to my own deficiencies, and therefore was unable to develop. My career hadn’t stalled because forces had aligned against me, but because my own hubris was preventing me from growing as an engineer and as a human being.

Embracing humility opened a lot of doors for me. It allowed me to see all of the areas that I need to develop and to accept help from others. It allowed me to acknowledge that I can learn from other people and to actively seek their guidance. Last but not least, it allowed me to step onto the mat at Minnesota Martial Arts Academy as a 36 year old and start to roll with guys ten or fifteen years younger than me. As they say, when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Nowadays I have a little mantra that I invoke many times a day.

Be humble. Have hustle.

I couldn’t help thinking of this during Penn’s post-fight interview when BJ said, “Sean Sherk, you’re dead!” I don’t know what to make of this comment. BJ has earned the right to be confident in his game. Nevertheless, dissing on your opponent smells bad and hides BJ’s true class. I’m forever a BJ Penn fan and I’ll always be inspired by his skill and tenacity. But as I develop my game I need to remind myself that my journey in BJJ began with humility and won’t progress without humility.

2 Responses to “Be humble. Have hustle.”

  1. Knight of Nothing Says:

    TK, this is terrific insight about personal growth and development. Thank you for sharing it.

    Next time you have a tournament in Minneapolis I’d love to come out and cheer you on!

    P.S. - I saw this and thought of you - http://channel.nationalgeographic.com/channel/fightscience/?ngc=40.

  2. erin Says:

    dude, that is the awesome-ist mantra! i almost want to read those paragraphs of your blog to my class! i think it’s a great example of how career development is an ongoing process. you rule, Tedster! i’m very proud of your accomplishments - professionally, jiu jitsu, and beyond.

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